Stress is change. It is neither good nor bad. A stressor can produce good feelings in one person and bad feelings in another. Therefore the stressor itself is neither good nor bad; it is our reaction to it that determines how it affects us.
Eustress is good stress. Stress that pumps up the adrenaline, challenges you to go a step further than you would normally go and makes you feel good inside.
Distress is bad stress. Stress that induces fear, frustration, depression, low self-worth and produces a bad feeling inside.
Stressor is the object or condition that causes the stress.
Managing Stress So that it Works for You
To make stressors work for your good you need to make the following a way of life:
- Determine your own stress level – some individuals can go all day, some require periodic breaks.
- Alter or change your behaviour or situation in relation to the stressor – change those things that you can change
o Accept the stressor if you cannot change it
- Build up your resistance
o Social – seek support of friends, family and community
o Spiritual – read Bible & pray daily, go to Church & participate
o Mental – time management, do not leave things for the last minute, set goals
- Anticipate potentially stressful situations and prepare for them
o If you will deal with it practice what you will say and do
- Learn from your mistakes
- Change your way of thinking
o Keep your expectations realistic – don’t expect perfection from yourself or others
o Look at your problems as challenges not hopeless cases
o Do what Paul encouraged the Philippians to do in the following Bible verse:
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phil. 4: 8