What is Trust?
If I was asked to define trust I would say; "Trust is knowing for sure that what a person presents him/herself to be is true". What they say or do is definitely so and you have no reason to doubt or question it. There is honesty and openness in the relationship.
When Trust Breaks Down
When you trust someone and finds out that they have lied to you, you feel a deep, heartfelt letdown. You are hurt, angry and experience a great loss. Depending on the relationship you may be willing to trust again but if you are constantly being let down, no matter how much you are in love, the closeness or intimacy will decline. It is difficult to maintain an intimate relationship when you do not know for sure if anything your partner says is true. A strong, close bond cannot be built when you are constantly second guessing what the person says or does.
What are the Benefits of a Trusting Relationship?
- Trust is a foundation for the relationship to build on.
- When you have proven time and time again that you can trust your partner you will do just about anything to maintain the bond that has developed.
- You know that what you see is what you get.
- You are more willing to be honest and open as you know what the reaction will be.
- Trust begets trust and respect.
- You are aware of your boundaries and limits once your partner is willing to be open and honest about his/her feelings and opinion.
- Trust begets a feeling of safety in knowing what your partner is capable of and will do.
- The relationship is strengthened when you know you can trust your partner.
- Intimacy is improved with trust as you can just let go and be yourself.
- Love, contentment, peace, joy, kindness and patience increases with trust.
Tips for Maintaining Trust in a Relationship
- Always be honest with your partner, family, friends and acquaintances.
- Do not keep secrets from your partner: Be honest and open about everything no matter how large or small; they should learn of any indiscretions in the past or otherwise from you and not from someone else.
- Show your partner that he/she is important to you.
- Share your activities and thoughts with your partner.
- Use words that will build relationships and not those that will put down the other person.
- Show through your actions and words that you care for, respect and trust your partner.
Share your thoughts in comments.